How Do I Know Where I Need Healing?
For many the memory of abortion lies hidden in shame, weakening and impairing us in ways we may have never realized were related. Is that true for you? See if you recognize yourself in some of the following questions:
- Do you feel reluctant to talk about the subject of abortion, or do you feel guilt, anger or sorrow when discussing your own abortion?
- Do you tend to think of your life in terms of "before" and "after" the abortion?
- Do you have lingering feelings of resentment or anger toward people involved in your abortion, such as the baby's father, friends or your parents?
- Have you found yourself either avoiding relationships or becoming overly dependent in them since the abortion? Are you overly protective of any children?
- Have you begun or increased use of drugs or alcohol since the abortion, or do you have an eating disorder?
- Have you felt a vague sort of emptiness, a deep sense of loss, or had prolonged periods of depression?
- Do you sometimes have nightmares, flashbacks, or hallucinations relating to the abortion?
- If so, it is likely you are experiencing pain related to your abortion. Many times if is referred to as "post-abortion trauma." See symptoms below.
You may be thinking "Okay, so I had an abortion, but that is in the past. Do I really need to be healed?
Symptoms of "Post Abortion Trauma"
- Inability to forgive yourself
- Emotional numbness
- Sexual problems or promiscuity
- Eating disorders
- Intense grief
- Lowered self esteem
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Nightmares and sleep disturbances
- Suicidal urges
- Difficulty with relationships
- Anxiety and panic attacks
- Multiple abortions
If you are experiencing any of the symptoms of Post Abortion Trauma, please see How do I Heal?